Suffering among seniors, with psychologist Dr. Valérie Bourgeois- Guérin

Suffering among seniors : a multifaced reality, with psychologist Dr. Valérie Bourgeois-Guérin

What are the main forms of suffering that seniors experience?
Suffering can be physical, such as illness or pain; psychological, which is often linked to grief and isolation; or existential, which arises from a loss of meaning or approaching the end of life. These dimensions intersect and sometimes amplify each other.

Why do some seniors hide their suffering?
Many seniors fear being a burden to others or struggle to express their emotions. For some people, particularly men, their socialization has led them to value strength and hide vulnerability. Others, regardless of gender, choose silence to protect their loved ones or because they believe speaking out would not bring relief.

How can loved ones support a senior without minimizing their suffering?
The key is to listen and validate what they are experiencing, without trying to rush the process. Being present, acknowledging that it is difficult, and gently reminding them that resources exist and there is hope can help ease the burden. When loved ones show authenticity by sharing their emotions and embracing vulnerability, it strengthens bonds and helps the senior feel less alone.

In conclusion:

• Suffering among seniors can be physical, psychological or existential – and often all three at once.
• Silence around pain can increase isolation, so acknowledging and accepting suffering is already a form of support.
• The authenticity and presence of loved ones can help transform suffering into a source of resilience.